2
Jan

Sky*pe (Update) (Update on the update:))

Update #2:  For those of you who have been e-mailing me and waiting for news, here goes…  

I just heard from a couple of people we know in Ch*na and a couple of them have been told by their employers that Sky*pe and another service I was unaware of are being frowned at now.  They aren’t banned from it per se, but being discouraged from its use.  And that is why most of our usual contacts there were offline.  Guess we’ll be using QQ again, which is too bad as I find Sky*pe easier to use.  (I know… wah!)

 As for Samuel, I heard from the staff member that facilitates the calls and she let me know that it was a miscommunication.  She was given the day off and was unable to figure out how to contact us in time to let us know that she wouldn’t be able to be around for the call.  She did let me know that Samuel has been cauding them to crack up a lot lately as he is happily showing off his “big muscles” lately.  🙂  Sounds like calls will resume as usual next Sunday night for us.  🙂  WOOOOHOOOO! 

Update: Last night the director of his foster home e-mailed me and let me know that she hadn’t heard about a problem with Sky*pe and that she would look into it.  She’s not currently there.  Also, we were able to Sky*pe with one of Grace’s friends in the city where Grace is from.  This morning an e-friend let me know that her daughter had been able to Sky*pe with friends in her hometown as well.  All that to say, maybe certain folks are being cautious and maybe this had NOTHING to do with the internet at all.  Hoping to hear more today…  I also put in a very nice voice mail to our agencies this morning.  Now off to my “real” life and the Dr.  It would appear I have pink eye.  What a strange day!  {shaking my head and holding on to hope}

We have been beyond spoiled by Sky*pe.  That fabulous free tool has allowed our daughter to keep contact with her friends in her birth country and allowed us to grow a relationship with our son. 

And now, by all appearances, that season has ended. 

A few days ago, reports that Sky*pe and other non-State controlled video calling in Ch*na were ruled as illegal, send a chill up my spine. 

Tonight we waited and waited for our scheduled weekly visit with our son.

All we heard was silence.

No whimsical flower icon.

No smiling Samuel avatar.

No, “Heh-yoh”, in a sweet breathy little voice, microphone clutched in two chubby little hands.

The bucket of toys we had planned to play with him sits here beside me unplayed with.

The story book is unread.

I fully realize that we were spoiled by Sky*pe.

But we’re still crying.

What is Samuel going to think?

Oh please God, send our LOA soon.

24
Dec

Merry Christmas!

20
Dec

Memories of Great Grandma on Day 50

Days since our paperwork was given a date stamp at the C*C*A*A* in China.  Chugging right along to our LSC….

We had the chance to watch Samuel see “Santa Claus” for the first time yesterday.  I don’t think “Santa” knew Samuel was Skyping in the office when he came to retrieve the presents for the preschool party.  They had to grab him real quick so he didn’t spin right off the office chair in his eagerness to turn around and see him!  LOL

Needless to say we had a fairly short visit with him this Sunday, but it was so amazing to hear that he was going off to be a Shepherd in the Nativity story that they were putting on.  A.M.A.Z.I.N.G. is all I have to say.

Stephen’s grandma went to be with Jesus this weekend and so we will be participating in the funeral.  When asked about our favourite memories of Grandma, Stephen remembered hanging around her house watching game shows with her (he didn’t have a t.v. at his house) and also how he could often score a cookie if he “helped out” in the kitchen while she worked on her baking.  🙂   My favourite memory was getting a phone call after we were engaged (at the Bible College – not easy for her to track me down) and asking me to come over for lunch.  She taught me to bake buns and she and Grandpa visited with me over lunch.  What a wonderful welcome into the family!  We all remember her telling the egg story (Stephen as a little boy on the farm) at our wedding and playing many games of Mexican Train.  Our oldest two kids remember her pouring milk and grape juice out of her glass pitchers and being allowed to sit up at the dining room table and use her pretty China dishes.  As Faith put it, “I’m SOOO glad that Great Grandma is with Jesus!”

It’s good to be with family this Christmas and to know our little man is being taught the most important story of all time.  My heart is very full.

Out of the many, MANY photos taken, this at least shows most everyone’s face on Stephen’s side of the family (When you have this many, sometimes that is all you can hope for! ha).  With the exception, of course, of grandchild #12.  🙂

14
Dec

What we’ve been up to

 

 

A visit to Santa, some very attractive gingerbread houses built with the help of my niece and nephew fairly inedible as we had to use duct tape and hot glue to make them stay together!), buying presents for our local community toy drive, making gifts for our extended family, sending Christmas cards, finishing up our schoolwork for this calendar year, entertaining packing lists for China, singing carols, and checking our my e-mail neurotically for our approval letter from China (LSC). 

It’s Day 44 today on the road to LOA… not that I’m counting.

 

 

7
Dec

Sometimes you just can’t do anything but laugh…

Life is such a strange and wonderful mystery.  And sometimes life just makes you shake your head.

I’ve been an absentee blog author lately.  Lots going on behind the scenes.  And a whole family full of snifflers {cough.  hack.  wheeze.}. 

Anyway, no news on the adoption front, but I added a quote to my “Quote Billboard” gizmo today and also came across this video of a Chinese Taxi driver driving the opposite way down a high speed freeway.   First off the video and then the quote.  I think the one nicely follows the other. 

Laughing at ourselves as well as with each other gives a surpising sense of togetherness.  ~ Hazel C. Lee

30
Nov

Spread the word

Take a look at this family’s generosity this Christmas. 

 If you are in the midst of an adoption (domestic or international) or know someone who is, well then you know how wonderful it is when folks in the adoption community support one another – like a double blessing!  

 They are not only creating a list of fundraising families for folks to puruse, they are also gifting a donation to one particular family who’s name shall be drawn Christmas Eve. 

Although I can’t get their button to open, if you head to their blog, Treasured Pearls, you can read all about it!

Happy Tuesday?

Or in our home, Happy Day 30 on our wait for LOA…

29
Nov

Samuel Update #4 (November)

 

We have so so loved interacting with Samuel every Sunday evening.  Sure it makes our hearts ache afterwards, but it is so so worth every moment.  It is possible to fall in love over a long distance relationship.

 

From New Day Foster Home this morning… 

Samuel is 2 Years 9 Months Old.

Samuel’s nanny wrote this update:

Samuel is getting very good at being the older brother to all of his younger siblings. Not only does he not insist on being held, but he also helps to take care of them! When he sees a little one crying, he immediately goes to them and helps wipe their tears. No comforting by Samuel is without a kiss and he gives them with the sweetest affection. We were so excited when we received photos of Samuel’s parents who are going to adopt him soon. Sometimes I ask him, “Samuel, what do you have in your family?” He usually considers for a moment and then says, “Dad and Mom.” I often find him looking at the photo album of his family and, if another child tries to touch it, he clutches it tightly to himself and says, “It’s mine, it’s mine!” We are so excited for him.

25
Nov

Happy Thanksgiving to all my US friends

I hope you are enjoying a day filled with family, friends and gratitude.  🙂

And from the New Day blog…

While we were sleeping, a little monkey was learning how to mash potatoes.

“…for Samuel, who’s tender heart always finds a way to make people feel loved.”

How very sweet!

Take a look at their blog for lots of photos and over to their Scrapbook page for full coverage of their Thanksgiving festivities.

19
Nov

Giveaway to benefit Grace’s orphanage

An “e-friend”, as we call them in our home, is having a really (I mean REALLY) fantastic giveaway that ends today. 

All of the proceeds (100%) will go directly towards this family’s orphanage donation.

The really exciting part for us, is that this family is adopting one of Grace’s orphanage-mates, Kaleb.

Follow this link over to He Leads Us – Faith Walkin’ to Kaleb.

Anita is giving away an I-pod Touch, a bunch of Visa gift cards and lots more.

Won’t you take a look?

16
Nov

One Year Later…

On November 16, 2009, one year ago today, we anxiously waited for our tour bus to crawl through rush hour traffic on its way to the Civil Affairs Office of  Guangdong Province.

We nervously rode the slow elevator upstairs.

We shed our coats, readied our paperwork, prepped our cameras, held our breath.

And then there she was. 

Entering the room timidly from behind a curtain.

Smile firmly attached to her face.

My heart stopped.

I could not catch my breath.

There she  was.

I pulled her stiffened body towards me and embraced her gently.

She called us each by name.

We fumbled over hers.

She came to us bearing photos, gifts, memories of a life lived. 

We spent many minutes poring over the photos.

She would chatter away and point with her long slender fingers.

I think we all fell into shock.

This was no apparition.

Here was our girl.

Our daughter.

Our sister.

Our granddaughter.

Her Mother.

Her Father.

Her siblings.

Her grandparents.

She was so beautiful and intelligent and confident.

She had so many who had invested in her.

Who cared about her.

And suddenly the real little girl was appearing before us.

The pre-drawn image fell away and the reality was there.

And again, it took our breath away.

The beginning had arrived.

We love you little Grace Qiao.

And so we need you to know…

We love that you are such a strong young lady.

We love your direct spirit, your willingness to probe until you understand.

We love your imaginative artistry, your ability to strive for accuracy and creativity in your play.

We love that you have a whole pile of people who stand behind your need to grow and love and be loved.

And nothing, not an ocean nor a fractured language can ever stop these people from caring for you Miss Grace.

Because we are so blessed to know you and to be known by you.

“Forever and ever?”, you say.

Yes, sweetheart. 

Forever and Ever and Ever and Ever…..

With our whole hearts we promise.

Love,

Mom & Dad